Tacky vs. Classy (or Superfluous)

Ever wonder why your man might be attracted to a woman who you never expected him to be attracted to? I mean, someone who looks nothing like you, her body image is the exact opposite of yours, and she may even be a different race? Does your man make stupid side comments walking through the mall or watching a television show when another woman pops up on the screen?  Ladies, don't they rub you the wrong way? And of course you know if you reply back to him, you're automatically "jealous" or "insecure." To which I reply (calmly) "Baby, there is nothing that that woman has that I don't have and haven't seen or played with a million times." 

Remember, the angrier you get about his off-the-wall comments which have no basic function other than to get you mad, the better he will feel.  So, play it cool, sistas.  Ride the wave.  Then when an attractive man pops up on the television, you gasp as though the wind was just knocked out of you OhmiGod! look at that fine piece of ass and that big strapping dick he has!  Jesus Christ I want him.!  Then leave the room. That oughta shut him up for a couple of months!

But seriously, what makes a man "observe" a woman who is so different from you? You may think she is tacky or ghetto or stank or whatever.  Her hair is not right, her clothes are not right, she is too tall, too fat, too skinny, ugly teeth, she has a bad attitude, she needs a makeover, her skirts are too short, pants too tight, etc. Or she could be the opposite.  She could be stuck up, thinks she is better, conceited, vain, narcissistic, etc. Of course we each think we are the best thing that has ever happened to our man.  Naturally. The answer is variety.  The more women your man attracts, the more virile and masculine he believes he is. A man is a hunter.  He really doesn't have the same peculiarities we have in seeking out a mate.  He just wants a woman to cook for him, give him sex (as much of it as possible) and shut up when the game is on.  We are a lot more picky. We have an entire laundry list or requirements.

So give him the three things we all know men want a woman for, and you'll get your way most of the time. Got it?  Good.

The thing is ladies, you gotta just get past these issues in your relationship.  If you know that your man's eyes wander and you also know he is faithful to you ad a good man, let it ride.  If you don't you'll go through this misery in ever relationship, and you'll never find a mate.

 

White Men and Black Women Relationships- An Encore Presentation?

Funny how black women in the new millenium with their Prada shoes, weaved hair and Gucci-carrying- bag- selves all of a sudden want to date white guys because there are so many black guys with white women. So sistas you wanna experiment, huh? I don't have a personal problem with this issue as long as the black women who are doing the interracial dating are sincere and not looking to "even the score" of the black man and white woman dating mystique.

I have had my own thing for white men back way before Mark Wahlberg, Robin Thicke and Channing Tatum were popular. They are fine. But here's the deal. It ain't like you're not getting a man- they are similar, you know. Just because he may take you to fancier restaurants than brothers, or buy you a few more baubles than the brothers, or not tip out on the relationship (so soon) or compliment you daily and tell you what a queen or goddess you are, just because he runs your bath water and sprinkles rose petals in the water in anticipation of your arrival, doesn't forget anniversaries, special occasions, talks about politics, government, world peace, world hunger and Haiti relief - doesn't mean he loves you. Then there's that all-too-important part of the relationship - S-E-X. True, there is no finer specimen on the planet, when it comes to endowment - the black male is simply the epitome of a superior sexual being - hot, muscular, strong, ( I digress) but after the interlude - he's already focused on something (or someone) else). While I do not want to portray my brothers as dogs, many of the relationships I have had with black men have been similar to this description. That white man, on the other hand, will continue to caress you throughout the day in remembrance of your lovemaking - teasing you and telling you how wonderful you feel and all of it, just because you're you. You can't beat that ladies. I don't blame you for trying.

However, if you are in an interracial relationship with a white man, do so because you love his character and you appreciate and respect him for who he is, not what he can do for you. I guess it is really the flip side of what some black women who have "gone to the other side" feel so frustrated about, that the black man only wants sex, doesn't want you for you and will cheat in a heartbeat, not to mention the fact that a lot of sistas out there have their own house, car, bank account, and a good job. Don't date a white man because he is something different because there are plenty of "different" black men around. Don't do it because you're trying to even the score of black men dating white women and "you just want to know how it feels to go around with a white man who will pay for everything." That is game playing at its finest. And someone will definitely get hurt. Life is too short - do the real you.